Because the establishment already has an idea of who they want and if you don’t fit their mold, you’re not getting in.
Because the establishment has leverage, a.k.a. money and platform, and that’s what you need.
Because the whole idea of just being yourself deludes you into thinking that they value you being yourself as much as you do.
These are the stark realities for you as a creative looking for a church job. I’m using the word job because that’s what it is: a job. This is not a family business, no matter what they say. You’re too new.